One of the greatest things about having kids, especially little kids, are the life lessons they inadvertently reteach us.
We unlearn so many crucial skills in dealing with people as we are taught about political correctness or the history of underwater basket weaving in school. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for higher education and learning, my wife is a teacher after all. However, most of the time the skills that people find the most difficult to learn (soft skills, people skills) are simply forgotten as all of this new information is presented.
Don’t believe me? Sit back and watch a group of 4-year-olds. You’ll be amazed at how easy it is for them to meet new people, build quick bonds, and get to know someone with no actual effort on their part.
Why is it so easy for kids to do this? I think it comes down to three simple things:
They smile, a lot. Kids are typically pretty happy and all they want to do is have fun. They play, they run, they tell ridiculous jokes that make no sense, and, most of all, they smile.They are happy to meet new people and are even happier when old friends return. Their smile is genuine and heartfelt. It’s impossible to be in a bad mood when the person you are with is constantly happy and smiling.
They notice the little things and are quick to compliment. My daughters notice when I get a haircut before anyone else and they tell me how nice it looks every time. All of the little things I take for granted, they notice. New socks get as much attention as if I just brought home a puppy. Their praise may be over the top but they mean every word.
They have a real curiosity about each person they meet. Young kids haven’t discovered the urge or desire to talk about themselves. They are much more interested in what everyone else around them is doing or saying to let their egos get in the way. And if they don’t understand something they are quick to ask “why” for clarification. The more they know about you, the better.
The next time you think networking isn’t for you or it’s too hard to meet new people, think back to that group of kids interacting on the playground. We all used to be really good at getting to know strangers until the world got in the way. We are all built to build relationships. Put a smile on your face, give a genuine compliment, and listen more than you talk. It really is that simple.